How to talk to your ex

Ending a relationship can be complicated, and no matter who calls things off, one or both of you might find yourselves wanting to reach back out to each other.

Maybe you just want to check in and form a friendly relationship, or perhaps you're interested in getting back together. Whatever the case, if you still want to talk to your ex after a breakup ,don't freak out: It's totally normal.

First and foremost, it all "depends on the timing and the intentions," intimacy and sexuality coach Irene Fehr tells Elite Daily. In such situations, it's normal to want to continue to involve an ex in your life and vice versa by habit. According to Fehr, it's important to think about what you want from talking to your ex.

If the relationship ended badly, or you both wanted different things, and you know deep down that you shouldn't get back together, then Fehr says it might be best to not reach out. Sure, that desire to talk is still normal, but that doesn't mean you should act on it, she emphasizes. Since wanting to talk to your ex is totally normal, Fehr suggests some alternatives to help you move on.

If you do end up talking to your ex even though you probably know it's not the best idea, Fehr says to "be kind to yourself and resolve to not do that again. That way, you can express your emotions without involving your ex.

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Remember: There's nothing wrong with wanting to talk to your ex, and it's completely OK to want to reach out to them. But as Fehr says, it might not be the best idea in the long run.

At the end of the day, remember that you're awesome, and that you deserve to be happy. Do what feels best for you. Only you know what that is.

By Korey Lane.